Sex and marriage

Some reasons why sex declines in marriage

 

 

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While sex isn’t the 'be all and end all' of a relationship, it is important as it initiates bonding between couples. There will be times when relationships and marriages have their ups and downs, and the same goes for a couple’s sex drive. However, it appears there is a general decline in sex once a couple has been married for a while. We have a look at some of the reasons why some men and women lose interest in sex.

Kids
They may be a bundle of joy, but children are one of the main reasons that a couple will have less sex as they can be demanding and sometimes put strain on everything. Many things change once children are bought into the equation and at the end of a long day of work, children and everything else, sex can sometimes be the last thing on a couple’s mind.

Work
It can be hard not to feel as though work and home life are a constant cycle: moving from one to the next, and back again. On top of that, mobile phones with their multi-media capabilities allow emails to be received and checked once a person is home, so connecting with your other half will be put aside as you connect with the online world.

Habit
After being together for years, some couples find that sex becomes a routine and predictable, or even bordering on boring. It can be hard to save a sex life when it gets stuck in a rut, so a couple needs to make sure they keep things exciting. It can also be a certain period in a person’s life or an event which causes a decline in sex drive.

Sleep

A study that was carried out in the UK surveyed couples who have been married for a few years and found that 79% of them would prefer to have a good night’s sleep than have sex. Daily life can be demanding for men and women who juggle careers, money, raising a family, and friends in their schedules, so when it’s time for bed, many couples just want to catch up on much needed sleep. The working week can certainly put a damper on your sex life.(Source: www.telegraph.co.uk/health news)

Appearance
It may sound shallow, but there are some couples that experience the decline of sex in a marriage because they have become less attracted to one another. It can be because of weight, wrinkles, overfamiliarity or routine, but it doesn’t mean that a couple has stopped loving one another.

Biology
It goes without saying that as a person ages, their body also slows down. It’s a fact of life that menopause and dysfunctions set in, causing sex to decline. A recent study of Malaysia and a number of other countries in Asia have found that roughly one in three Malaysian men (29%) suffer from premature ejaculation*. Similarly, women going through the menopause will experience a loss of libido affecting arousal. (*source: The Malay Mail)